The Warrior Class

Four Things the Press Gets Wrong About the Military and One Thing They Get Right

“Rise up, warriors, take your stand at one another’s sides, our feet set wide and rooted like oaks in the ground.”

Tyrtaeus, Spartan poet

I live in a military town, spent thirteen years in the Navy, and am married to a retired Naval Officer who now works in the Defense industry. So when military folks (service members and their spouses and families) get put up on pedestals for their sacrifice and service it makes me uncomfortable because, to me, people in the military are just people. There are good ones and bad ones and boring ones and ones who should be running the world–not because they’re power hungry but because they’re really that organized. But I see why the pedestal thing happens…or I’ve come to see why after reading articles like this one.

There are whole segments of the population who know nothing about the military and have only seen soldiers and sailors on TV.

And of course our military is in the news recently.

Here’s Brig Gen Norman Ham, [quoted in this Associated Press article on Yahoo!] commander of the 440th Airlift Wing, in an interview reflecting on the mixed outcome in Iraq.

“The world isn’t a perfect place. We try to help where we can and do the best we can,” Ham said. “We have limited resources to go everywhere and do everything for everyone, but we do the very best we can and that’s what we’ve done in Iraq — the very best we can.”

I don’t aim to change people’s opinions about any of this, but maybe I can shed a little light on military people in my corner of the world. At the risk of opening up a can of controversy, here are my

Four Things the Press and Popular Culture Get Wrong About the Military:

1. People in the military are not actively seeking the next big conflict. It is our butts on the line any time troops or military might gets committed to combat, plus increased conflict means increased deployments and separations from our loved ones. Corollary: There is an idea floating out there that if you eliminate the military, you eliminate war. To me that’s like saying if you take away the police, you eliminate crime.

2. We are not all Special Forces Operators. Every job is important and can be every bit as dangerous. For example: the deck of an aircraft carrier is considered one of the most hazardous places in the world. Corollary: Spec Ops people are people too. Highly trained, skilled, physically fit people.

3. We do not all come back from conflict with PTSD. This is in no way to invalidate the true pain of service members and their families affected by post traumatic stress. Everyone is affected in some way by combat and military service, but that effect is not always negative. Many young people join the military for an opportunity to see some of the world. Some join for the educational opportunities. All, I think, are changed forever.

4. We do not wear our uniforms all the time. Though sometimes it feels like we do. And sometimes, like during training and conflict scenarios we actually do. But I know I was as fond of girl clothes as anyone else whose job was not the military.

And One Thing the Press Actually Gets Right:

Homecoming is as romantic as it looks…for about thirty minutes then readjustment and reality sets in. My oldest daughter was two and a half when my husband left on a deployment and three when he came back. We weren’t really sure how she was going to react to seeing her Daddy again. What did happen: as soon as she saw him she ran up and jumped in his arms. She wouldn’t let him put her down for at least a half hour. And of course he was really OK with that. When we got back to the house, however, she wanted nothing to do with him, she didn’t even want him to read her a bedtime story. We had to slowly work him back into our daily routine.

So I’m not saying you shouldn’t thank military men and women for their service. I’m just saying that when you see someone in uniform in the airport or on TV, recognize that they are not that different from you. Not an alien race or even a warrior class…they’re just people getting the job done. They get on with things so you can too.

(All photos courtesy and The ships pictured are the guided missle destroyers USS PORTER and USS COLE.)

11 thoughts on “The Warrior Class

  1. Emma Burcart says:

    Thanks for the great post. The one thing I have trouble with is the lingo. There are so many acronyms that I don’t understand. Sometimes it’s like my brother is speaking a different language. I have to stop and tell him I’m down with OPP but I don’t wear BVD’s.

    • Kecia Adams says:

      Hey Emma. LOL! I like your response. My mom used to say similar things to us (me, my brother and my dad) when we would get going. Always made us laugh. I think every profession has its own lingo, but the military takes it to another level entirely.

  2. Well put. My husband served in the Marine Corps Reserves for five years (before a stroke forced a discharge), including a combat deployment, and he’s said multiple times how he didn’t like being put on a pedestal. He was just doing his job.

    I also agree it’s important to thank those who serve. The willingness to make the sacrifice of time away from their families, as well as potential physical or psychological trauma, deserves respect.

  3. lynnkelleyauthor says:

    Nice post, Kecia. Thanks for your service to our country. Most of what you’ve written is common sense, but I guess a lot of folks misconstrue what military life is all about if they haven’t had much contact with those who have served.

    • Kecia Adams says:

      Lynn, you are the audience I wanted to direct this post toward. Things like the internet maybe shrink the world some and let us see into unfamiliar worlds…and we find out people are people everywhere you go. 🙂

  4. Being married to a Marine, I get what you’re saying about military people being just people. I don’t think I treat them differently, but I hold them in high regard because of what they do. I have more respect for a Marine than a lawyer. Sure, both can be good at what they do, but the Marine is putting his life on the line often times for me (or us). So maybe they don’t deserve to be put on a pedestal, but their sacrifice is more than what most of us are willing to do, and that should be recognized.

    • Kecia Adams says:

      I agree about the sacrifices, Shannyn. I am just trying to create a lens for someone who isn’t familiar with the military to see military people more clearly, rather than the distorted lens presented to us by press and popular culture. Of course, we all have our biases…and I’m not an exception there. 🙂

  5. Lynette says:

    Kecia, Yes, it’s a job. But it’s also a choice. I agree with Shannyn – many military personnel and their families make huge sacrifices. And I will continue to say thank you for your service to every military person I meet. Not because they are on a pedestal, but because I appreciate that they are willing to do that job. I thank anyone — a store clerk or a doctor or a lawn care man or a housekeeper — who does a job that I appreciate. So,thank you for sharing your perspective, and thank you for your service. 🙂

  6. It’s interesting to see the differences in the treatment/response to the military in our two countries. Military service seems to be more highly regarded in the US than Canada – and we don’t have nearly the percentage of folks who have served.

    thanks for an education about your forces.

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